Being trans is neat. I am using he/him almost exclusively now. For a while I was using they/them mostly because I wasn’t sure where, or if, I fit into the realm of masculinity.
Turns out I do. I have amazing cis male friends who are just as soft and caring and emotional as I am. Coming to terms with the fact that I do NOT have to embrace the toxic sides of masculinity to be perceived as male has been freeing to me.
To be honest, if someone used they for me that’s okay, but he/him is what I have decided is best for me. I still have a lot of places online to fix and some places aren’t even properly updating my pronouns.